Because they don’t feel like their lives will be worth living. Many people you meet who are trans may be going through struggles you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy – getting abused in the street, finding it difficult to get work and the pain of family rejection. Evan Urquhart, who writes about trans issues for Slate, argues that in addition to being gay, straight, bi, pan, demi, etc., some people are phallophiles and some are vaginophiles — that is, some people (perhaps most) have a strong preference for either partners with dicks or partners with vaginas.
Many guys who like trans women have done lots of sexual experimentation and that’s fine, but what if I just want a man who’s a bit boring? When I transitioned as a teenager I was convinced I’d have to spend the rest of my life alone because I couldn’t imagine anyone in my hometown so much as going for a pint with a trans person, let along dating one. I can’t promise that you will find love – no one knows that. This is not just about trans bodies either, it's about ALL bodies. #findyourhappiness #liveyourtruth #respectintimacy A post shared by Laith Ashley [De La Cruz]🇩🇴 (@laith_ashley) on I honestly don’t think this has ever happened to anyone, anywhere in real life. A guy was feeling me up once when I first transitioned and I’d forgotten to tell him that I was, well, ‘more than a woman’, so he found out for himself.Can someone who usually doesn't "do" monogamy feel fulfilled in a "closed" relationship?Can it work out, or will they just slowly grow to resent me for this? I’ve no idea what it’s like for trans men or non-binary people so this is just my perspective. I don’t always like the way they treat me – but welcome to being a woman I guess? I think this question comes up because some people perceive trans women as ‘men who become women’. I don’t go around asking men how big their junk is, no matter how curious I might be – and if we’re chatting on Tinder, believe me, I’m curious.
I transitioned from male to female ten years ago so I know a thing or two about dating as a trans woman. The way they look, the way they smell, the way they feel. I want to go bed with Tom Hardy as Rihanna for the night, but that’s me. Why do guys on dating apps feel like it’s OK to just blurt this out? You want to know what you’re signing up for, but seriously, would a little decorum kill you?I don’t know what the solution is, but all I can say is I wish you all the happiness in the world. And if someone’s got a problem with me being trans, I’d rather find out straight away and avoid wasting everyone’s time. Dating is always complex and chaotic, but one thing I know is this: you need to treat people with kindness.